Travel

If I had a plane ticket to anywhere in the world I would pick to go to Italy. I am almost one hundred percent Italian and a lot of my family that I do not know lives there. My grandmother came off a ship straight form Italy to come to America many years ago to live a better life at the time. She has told me many stories about Italy and I am really interested in going. She grew up with 11 siblings and most of them are in Italy now. Unfortunately I have never met them but I would love to go there just to meet them.

In Italy I would go to all the little towns and visit my family. I would also go cite seeing a lot and see many of the cool ancient Roman buildings. My aunt recently last summer had went to Italy and she took many group tours and told me all about them. She got to eat the real Italian food and also get to try many new things. I would also like to attend a church service there. I heard that you don't wear formal wear when you go to those churches. The dress wear for women is a long dress or skirt most the time and for men a nice shirt or one with a tie, this would be a different experience then the churches in our town today.

Seeing temples and all the cool ancient buildings is the main reason I want to go there. They have beautiful towers and cathedrals that I am eager to see. My stay in Italy would involve me staying in the top of the line hotels. Bed and breakfast and and nice suite for the room. Wonderful room service and a nice huge room with a jacques sounds like the perfect hotel. It would have to be clean and maybe have a beautiful cite out the window.

Over my lifetime so far I have tried so many different types of Italian food but im sure there is still more to try. I would be willing to try them. It is always int resting to try new foods and im sure i havent tried all of them yet. In Italy i would defiantly want to try there sauce, I heard it is the best. Now I am not old enough but when i am alittle older i would like to do the wine testing tour. They allow you to try all the different wines and show you how to make them , I think it would be cool.

Besides food, family, and beautiful buildings I would love to just sit back on the beach. I have heard the beaches in Italy are gorgeous, I would love to lay on the beach and watch the sunrise. The fact that you travel everywhere by boat is so intresting to me and I cannot wait to see the sights around Italy. If I had the chance to visit Italy I would spend most of my time sight seeings and taking a boat out into the beautiful ocean waters. Italy is defiantly a place i want to go to one day.

Punishment

It is never the best choice to do something wrong. In our society today there are many things adults and even young kids do wrong. Not being punished for doing something wrong no matter what if its time out for a child or jail for an adult there should be some punishment. A murderer should be killed himself. I believe if anyone has the heart to kill somebody no matter what the reason is they should be killed themselves. Death penitently is something rarely used today and I feel that it is necessary to be given to a murderer. Therefore murderer might not immediately get the death sentence but should spend all of the time before that in prison.

Over and over again crimes happen in our society. Getting sent to prison is something that I think works best for our society. Being in prison is not fun and the time spent in prison should give the person a chance to realize what they did wrong and make them learn from there mistakes. If the person doesn't realize there mistake then that's their own fault and will have to face more consequences. I could not imagine time in prison it looks like such an uncomfortable, creepy, and not so fun place. I do not understand how people could commit a crime knowing that they are going to go to prison or get taken away for it.

After a certain amount of crimes from one person I believe they should be in prison or jail for a lifetime. There are rules in every different society and they are not suppose to be broken. Under some circumstances I think it would be ok for them to come out at their sentenced time. Thief's should be in prison for a good amount of time. Stealing items or breaking into places should involve harsh consequences. Not only should they have to give back and pay for all the items and fines I think prison time needs to be required. If there was no prison time at all what would make them not steal again? I don't think everyone learns from prison but I believe if they don't learn something out of going then something is wrong with them or they just don't care.

In my world of justice my prison would be packed with so many criminals. I would make them do work outside, cook all meals, clean and serve there mates pretty much like prison's now a days. They would not have a lot if any time out of there cell and they would be put through torture. Prison is a punishment it is not suppose to be fun and they would not be aloud to have any fun time what so ever. If you do something wrong you have to pay the price and getting out easy is not the answer.

Deep Questions

Life is full of many wonders and a lot of the times I ask myself why. My main question as a human is why do we die and what is it going to be like when we die? I have learned that there is a heaven and hell and that obviously good people would go to heaven. However I do not get how everyone has a different view about death and it can be looked at in many different ways. We really do not know where we are going to go when we die. I also wonder what its going to be like when we die. Will we see the people we are friends with now and our family or will we meet all new people or will be just be a dead soul? I will never know. The thought of dieing scares me and I try not to think about it so much but unfortunatly it is a topic that does come up sometimes. It is intresting to hear about all the different views on the topic. Does everyone die because its there time or is it just meant to be. Why do people get in accidents and why is it the passenger that usually gets injured more or why are they the ones to die? Why do people kill themselves to die? Why do people kill other people murders or getting shot? How could they really do that to someone to take there life away? Is getting in trouble with the law for murder worth it to them? People dont think sometimes and when they attempt to kill somebody the consequences dont seem worth it so why do they do it? Why do we all live to die? When you die is there an afterlife? Do you come back and live in a different world or are you just like a rock sitting on the ground? Why do people decide to get buried in the ground rather then get cremated and not get eaten by bugs? Does everybody believe in ghosts? If your a ghost do you life a new life? There are so many things to open your mind up too on the topic of dieing. No one will ever be able to tell you for such what happens when you die but theres is always stories to be told.

Comfort Food

I love so many different types of food. From Italian to Mexican food I love eating it all but my comfort food would have to be Italian food . I am almost one hundred percent Italian and that was the main food I was raised to eat growing up. At all family dinners there would be an endless amount of Italian foods. From spaghetti and meatballs to chicken Parmesan all of these food give me a home safe feeling.

Ever since was little we would have huge family dinners. At family dinners there is always  too much food, no one goes home hungry and there are usually plenty of  leftovers. There are always so many different entrees to eat. I believe Italian food is my comfort food because I enjoy and love all the different entrees given to me to eat. Family dinners happen quite often so I am always eating Italian food. Besides at family dinner at home many Italian meals are also cooked frequently.

I feel that my comfort food stays the same all the time. I eat different food all the times too but Italian food is defiantly my top choice. Homemade Italian food is my favorite and I do eat it most often. I'm sure my comfort food can be high in calories and fattening but I still love it. Italian food is my comfort food because I was raised to eat it. Not only is it delicious but I also got to spend time with my family while eating it and it is always a good comfortable time.

These Italian dishes that I love to eat so much never get old. There are so many different types of choices in the Italian food category I probably haven't even tried them all. When I eat these foods I feel that it defines my culture by explaining a little bit more of who I am. I eat big dinners with my family and it is always nice to share the experience with other people like friends to see if they feel the same way about my comfort food or to learn more about theres. I can never go wrong with homemade Italian food. When I'm stressed or just starving it always allows me to be comfortable.

As well as the holidays for example like Thanksgiving, turkey for dinner is what we eat but besides that we always have some pasta meal as a course before the big dinner. This would have to be my comfort food not only because it is what I was raised to eat, I love it and we even made it a part of our family holiday tradition. Italian food will always be my favorite cultural food and when I am older it will defiantly pass it down to my family and keep the tradition going

Arguments vs discourse

Personally I hate arguing but somehow there is always arguing whether it is with my group of friends of my mother. I think it is pointless and the fact that the Greeks used to stand in public areas and do it for fun makes no sense to me. Unless there is a logic reason to argue over lies or known facts I think it is dumb. I argue all the time with poeple but it is never worth it. There are disagreements a lot and I am pretty sure that is what causes the arguing. Espically when I know I am right and someone tries to prove me wrong somehow that always turns into an argument.

If one person loves the president and another hates the him I would not say that they are enemies. I would classify it as they just have different opinions on the topic. Them argueing might happen because of their differences but I do not think that they are enemies. It seems that when they are arguing over different opinions they get so mad because they always think they are right. I know when I think or know I am right and someone tries to prove me wrong in an argument it makes me mad. It is just a natural reaction to get tense and mad when you feel your opinion is the better one.

When an argument is debated I feel that sometimes the point is always not getting acrossed or the other person is not even listening to what you are saying. When that happens and i get ignored or talked over I know that makes me mad. Usually when people do not get the last word in or their best opinion in it can cause future arguments or people walking away unhappy and I believe that is why people in this case walk away steaming.

There is different types of ways to settle disputes but as for rules I do not believe they would work in an argument. Each side thinks they are right and are gonna do their best to prove the other person wrong. Even though I do not think rules should work I think they would be a really good idea. I know in past arguments I havent gotten everything in that I have needed to say and it makes me mad. A rule that I feel would be a perfect one would be to let everyone have a chance to talk and not get intreupting. You never know maybe you think you are 100 percent right but then you took the chance to listen to another person and realized that maybe they had a good point.

Overall I think arguing is really stupid and it stinks that it is a big part in lifetime. You live and learn and thoose little arguments now in high school might only get worse. I have learned over the years to keep to myself now and I try my best. There is still going to me numerous arguments but i try my best to stay out of them.

Too Much Homework!

Homework is not something many kids like to do. Personally I do not either, but it is something that you have to do to do well in your class. Even though I do not like doing it I feel that it does help me out in my  classes a lot. For example in my marine bio class we have a list of assigments to do sometimes in class and for homework on each chapter we do. These assigments include revies outlines and study questions which help me memorize what I am learning about from writing it multiple times. In my math class we also get homework every night. Once a day we learn a new lesson and recieve homework on it, because I do not li,ke homework i look at it as practice.

I feel that I get a lot of homework but it is not too much. It is my senior year and I think it is better to be prepared doing more work being that I am going to college next year because I know I am not going to get babied through my work in college. I do not have an exact time every night that it takes me to do my homework but usually per night I have at least thirty minutes worth. Sometimes doing my homework winds up taking an hour or so but I am always learning something or practicing while doing it. I feel that if a student is staying up untill midnight to finish their homework that they maybe are not planning their time well. I understand that most kids have a job at my age now but there should always be time right after school or right after work. Kids in highschool should not be working past ten at night anyways on school nights.

Usually on weekends I do not partiucally have assigned homework. If i have homework on weekends it is something that was assigned during the week and due the following week or Sunday night which is not always bad at times. I like having more time to do bigger tasks and sometimes I use my weekends up finishing projects or writing that last essay I need. Every year since kindergarten I have had some time of homework given through me through out the week. From my elementary days to now in high school obviously work has gotten harder. From my freshman to senior year I have seen a change in homework, this year I get a heck of a lot more which I hope is just preparing me more for the college real world.

I can say I definatily have learned form doing homework. It is more of a practice and it is always nice to go over it the next morning in class being able to see your mistakes and learning to do it the right way after all practice makes perfect. I do not like to wait untill the last minute to do my homework but however it does happen sometimes. When i don't get a chance to do it I feel like I am in a rush and not doing the best I can in my assignment. I do not feel like there is too much homework, I think it is just the students being lazy.

President

If I had to pick one family member for public office as a president I would pick my uncle Larry. He is a very smart man and knows a lot about the history of our world. He is now in his 60’s so he has experienced a lot. He did not attend college however it didn’t seem as important as it is now a days especially for future life time careers. When he was little he took care of his siblings so he has some back round being able to work with others. His first job where as taking off those items for example sugar off of ships. He did that for many years. His brother unfortunately that he was very close with had died in the army but he had taught him so much about the army and he always tells me stories.

I choose him for office because he knows a lot bout our country and is always committed to get the job done when he receives a task. He does not like just sitting around either so he would always do something productive for us like set up meetings for various things , prevent us from going to war the best as possible even though that’s something that might never happen, and try to get every one involved and make our world a better place to live in.

Economically I think he would try to help out too. With everyone loosing their jobs therefore putting them in debt is a very depressing thing too see. I could see him helping a lot of those people out by maybe allowing them to work in his office. He also knows many people in different places so he could always talk to them and help some people out with jobs after all when you know some body you usually have an in with a job which I have experienced already.

Also another big thing I think he would do is fight to keep the age at 18 for allowing teens to go to war. If that is something you want to do then that should be your choice. This is not an everyday issue but I believe it is going to come up soon enough in our society and the president is going to have to have a say or do something about it. I defiantly would see him making in big in our country as a president because I feel like he has all of the qualities you would need as a president. He is not lazy has good interpersonal skills and would be very devoted to our country. He would not single any body out and he would do his best to help everybody in different ways even those in Africa that are starving, sick or even in the need of parents. I believe my uncle would be a great president.

What is WIld

The word wild means quite a few things to me. The few main meanings that come to my mind when I think of the word wild are those wild animals, wild reckless crazy people, and the wild life outside as in different locations. There are many different wild animals and over the years mainly in mt science classes I have learned many different things about them. Most wild animals I have learned about seem to have become extinct or has had a population that has now decreased. Basically they are wild because they do everything on their own. They also never have been tamed by a human and that is immediately why I think of the world wild when I refer to these animals. Growing up with no guidelines as in rules or a parental guidance to teach you the right thing way to do things shows why they are the way they are. The way these animals make it threw their life is quite interesting because they do it all on their own. This would not make me want to go see one of them in the wilderness but I think it is really cool that they live in the wild with no rules and are able to survive for pretty long periods of time.

Wild life/ wilderness is an interesting part of the environment to me. A wilderness place is usually a huge area filled with different types of animals, places, and things. It is usually an un protected area left the way it was in its natural condition. Humans have never been in these areas most of the time because they are dangerous. If a human was to go to a wilderness place they might be crazy or wild themselves.

People are also crazy reckless and wild. Wild people tend to grow up in a different way from others. They either party all the time, never obey rules or do what they want all the time. That is my definition of a wild person and I feel like if a person is constantly wild they might not make it as far in life. If you don’t have priorities and are constantly wild without following rules they most likely will never learn. Growing up is where you experience many new things, experiencing them as a wild person can get you in a lot of trouble and doing everything on your own without those rules to guide you can make a person wild.

Wild things can happen anywhere even in our own town. Crimes for example is one wild thing I have heard about around here in New Jersey recently. I think it makes no sense for someone to take play in a crime because in the end nine out of ten times they get caught. I feel if a person is going to do something wild that they should look into it before they do it but then again they are not going to do so. If they are wild then they do what they want without a care in the world anyways. Wild means so many things and that is what wild is for me.

Being Alone

Being alone is not something that bothers me, when I am alone I feel like I am getting more things done. Studying and cleaning my room for example are a lot easier to do when I am by myself and I feel like I get it done faster. Homework is something I need to do when I am alone because I get distracting easily when being around others so therefore I always have some alone time everyday. Besides going to school I have been working at the same restaurant for almost a year now and I am around different people there almost everyday. I don’t mind the people that are nice but sometimes it is nice to get away and have alone time especially after dealing with them all day. When I get out of work my mom is rarely home so I have a chance to be alone before I go to sleep or whatever which I enjoy.

At different times it is always nice to be alone but there are still those time when its nice to be with your friends. I always make time for myself when I need too so that I always have room for those times when I need to be alone and mostly when I have things to do. I try to be very organized so there are not many times when I need to be alone to do things. I personally don’t like being alone driving in the rain or walking outside at night it scares me for some reason.

Usually when I am alone I am feeling perfect but they are occasionally those times when I am upset and it is not going good. I always like to be busy so when I am alone I am never bored and find something to do. Looking up colleges and doing school work seems to take up a lot of my alone time for now.

I would have to say I just started being pretty good with being alone. The first time I stayed home by myself the door bell rang and I was petrified, which had scared me for quite a while. Turns out that it was only my basketball coach dropping off my trophy but at the time I did not know what to do, I wound up not even answering the door. Overall I am now okay with being home alone finally. As far as being alone and having time for myself I think I manage my time pretty good. I like being alone and times and sometimes I don’t so I am pretty much in the middle.

Music

Music is something I really enjoy in my life, it is not just a back round noise. There are many different types of music and I like almost all of them. Sometimes music helps me get through the day. I love listening to it and singing even though I suck. Different music’s show importance, meanings and can also reflect cultures. I take music with me everywhere I go, I always have my ipod and I try to update it frequently. I listen to it in school when I have free time, when I go to the gym, in my car and sometimes when I am out. When I have a lot of work to do music makes me concentrate so I try to listen to it a lot. Hearing different styles of music is always interesting.

Inspiration also comes from music. Depending on what type , most have a meaning emotionally. It is important to me and it has helped me and people in multiple ways. If you are getting ready for a big game it can help you get pumped up if you listen to it before it. There is also the break up and love songs that everyone enjoys listening to and can effect people it different ways. It is always good to be able to relate to a song, it always makes it more interesting.

Music sometimes can and does distract me but it is always very important. When I am studying I don’t find it important to listen to music because it is a time to remember things. When I am doing work by myself it is always nice to listen to music it keeps me from getting distracted by other people and keeps me focused on getting my work finished.

Different types of music rock, pop, hip hop, country, and jazz have been here for over hundreds of years. If it was not important and enjoyable to so many people music would not be coming out as much. There are many new artist and still many good old songs to listen to. When you go out it is always nice to hear different types of music and what other people listen to. If they are a different culture it has different meaning and is interesting to me to learn about it.

I am always open to listen to different types of music. I don’t not have a favorite type of music because a lot of songs are interesting and have life learning meanings. When I was younger I learned quite a few things from music. For example the alphabet. It was a easy way for me to remember it as a kid and I will always remember the song. It is always fun to dance to music at proms and weddings. There is never a dull moment and it is always a memorable time with different types of music. Music can have a lot of power and soul and that is why I believe it is so important to me.

Relationship With the Phone

My phone is like my best friend. I take it everywhere I go; to work, school, my friends house. I have a blackberry so not only can I use my phone for communication but I can also search the web on it and use it as my personal calendar. The alarm clock on my phone is what wakes me up in the morning so it is always by my side when I go to sleep. Text messaging is mostly what I use my phone for. I get calls and call people sometimes but I find myself text messaging much more. I can also download many things on my phone or listen to music which is very convenient because I feel like my phone is all I need.

I can also play games on my phone which is very nice. For example when I’m in a doctors office waiting two hours to get called in I can just use my phone and play a game or multiple games to pass time. I would not say I spend hours on my phone but it is nice to always be there when I need it to pass time, communicate or look something up.

My cell phone is also is good to use as a GPS. When I go out of area to a relatives house or a new shopping center I always use it. It is very helpful and tells me where to go and nine out of ten times gets me there with out a problem.

Living without my cell phone might be something that would be a little annoying at first since I am so used to having it. I would be able to live with out my phone especially since I didn’t get a phone until I was in seventh grade and lived with out with until then. When my mom was little cell phones weren’t even invented yet and they all made it through so I believe I can. I wouldn’t want not want to have one for emergency reasons when I am driving. If I ever get in an accident or a flat tire and need help it would be much easier and faster to get help.

There is so many different things I use my phone for it would really stink with out it. When my phone dies and I am in the middle of using it it drives me crazy. I always try to keep it charged because I use it so much. Once I dropped my phone in sauce and couldn’t get a new one for days my old one was completely ruined, it was so annoying to contact everyone and almost impossible to get in touch with them sometimes. I couldn’t imagine the network closing for six months yes I would live and not having a phone because I use it everyday would be horrible.

Noticing Driver's Behaivor

There a few different types of drivers that I have observed since I have started driving. I have had my license since March so it has only been about 7 months and I have experienced a lot. People that drive cars a lot of the times seem like reckless drivers. I have seem many people texting and driving, cutting people off, people speeding and just driving like idiots. I am not the best driver but I do believe there is differences between drivers. There are good and bad drivers and also careless drivers and very cautious drivers. A good drivers usually goes the speed limit take a lot of caution while on the road and for example yield to pedestrians, which is the law. A good driver would never drink and drive which is most defiantly the right think to do. Bad drivers drive recklessly don’t pay attention and usually get distracted a lot. As for the cautious drivers would be good drivers and careless drivers would be bad drivers.

I have seen some pretty crazy things while I was driving. When I was driving home from Toms River I seen a car run through a red light and crash right into the car that was coming the other way turning onto the road I was on. I was the first car at the light after the guy blew the light and thank god I didn’t get hit it was very scary. I’ve seen many other crazy things but I will always remember this one. I don’t really see many people doing kind things while driving but it is always nice. The most I have seen people do was helping when there was an accident and people taking a minute out of their time to let a car pull out or get onto the main road when there was a lot of traffic.

Personally I have never been in an accident with another car but when I first got my license I hit the gas instead of the break hopped a curb in front of my house and ran into the street pole. The pole fell on my car my back window came out the trunk was broke and I had to get the whole back of the car fixed and it took forever. When this happened I didn’t know what to do I didn’t even put the car in park after this happened I just ran out of the car. It was a total accident and a mistake and I try the best I can to be more careful now especially when backing up.

Overall I am not the worst driver but I have tried to improve. I used to text and drive and now I avoid it because I have realized the consequences. I eventually want to be a good driver, always do the speed limit and never break the law. Accidents happen and I hope I never get into one. Seeing accidents with damage and injuries involving accidents really scares me. When I am in control of the wheel I don’t want to be a careless driver because even thought you are doing fine the car behind you might not be paying attention and can easily cause an accident. Driving is a scary thing and I hope that I can get better and always be able to pay attention while I am in control.  

Anger Triggers

Everyone no matter how nice you are has an angry side to them. I try to be a very nice person but there are some things that make me angry. However when I am angry I believe I am good at contolling my anger. Sometimes little stupid things can make me angry. One thing that makes me angry is getting a bad grade on a test and not understanding what I am learning. Testing in high school can be difficult. Learning many new different things in several different classes can get very frustrtating at times too. Basic credits to go to college include everyone to take four different classes;English, HIstory, Science, and Math. Therefore learning all of these subjects have put many techniques, equations, facts and history in students brains. When taking tests and haveing to learn all new things every week makes it hard for some students to keep their grades up in everyclass. When I recieve a bad grade lower then a 75 I get very angry because I feel like I could of done better. Also being as it is my senior year it is a very busy year with college stuff working and maintaing my grades.
When people talk about me it makes me mad. It's not a nice thing espically when your friends do it. Yes everyone does it including myself but I have tried to learn from my mistakes by avoiding talking about people and hearing about it as much as possible. It stinks to hear about it espically from friends. When people that don't know you talk about you it usually means that they have nothing better to do.
Reckless drivers should stay off of the road. Driving is a right that many people get a chance to experience. When driving you are basically in control of a big, dangerous, expensive machine. When people take advantage of their ability behind the wheel it makes me very nervous and angry. It puts me in danger and most of the time when someone is carlessly driving they are the ones flipping you off because they are in a rush or just being reckless.
My job is also another thing that makes me angry. Obviously I have to contol my anger because I am a waitress and I can not talk back to the customers or be rude in anyway. It annoys me when they complain to me when something is wrong with their food espically because I do anything thing i can to satistfy them with something else like give them a refund or a different entree plus and be xtra nice about it. The thing that annoys me the most at my job is having to serve people everytime i work mean or nice.
I am pretty good at controlling my anger and I do not usually show it towards other people. However it has happened occassionally. I don't really have any strategies for people who are angry because I never really needed them. Im sure if your an uncontrolable angry person time to yourself to calm down could help out. Also trying to talk out or solve you problems with someone else before getting out of control. If people get angry often and have many sudden outburst maybe they are stressed out. Many things mae me angry each and everyday but I do the best I can control it. On the otherhand I guess we could call thoose people who can not control their anger beligerent.

Friends In Number

Having a good friend is a way to appreciate life, to know that their is someone always there for you through the good times and the bad times. There will always be little fights and arguments with your good friends but eventually you forgive each other. To count on one good friend is better to have then a ton of friends you cant trust or depend on. A good friend should always be there for you when you need help or have a problem. People that aren't good friends are there to enjoy life and have a good time with you. Having a lot of friends is always nice but good friends should be in your life forever. Going places, laughing and having fun is what every friendship should have. As you get older your going to loose a lot of your friends but good friends you'll stay in touch with. People with a hundred friends don't seem unhappy, however it might accumulate problem's if certain people don't like each other in the group. People with good friends seem just as happy if no happier. Having a lot of friends is not a bad thing, it shows that you are a friendly and outgoing person. Picking and choosing your friends is important because you want to be able to trust your friends. A good friend should have the quality to always be there for you even i they might have difficulties or problems themselves at the time. I think people accumulate friends because friends are important to have. Accumulating friends shows that your a sociable person and like meeting new people which is always nice. People also accumulate more friends by going out to new place or going out a lot. Some people do it for more attention from others. Also because some people feel that the more friends they have are more important then what kind of friend they are. Usually your best times and good memories are with your good friends. I think people focus on one or two good friends because they have trust issues or are a bad friend themselves. Having a bunch of acquaintances is also nice but as they say keep your friends close but your enemies closer. I think the way i do about my friends because I've had many different friends since i was little and i am still friends with a few. That's how I know their good friends. They have always been there for me, we laugh together and have even went on many vacations together. The friends that I am not friends with anymore were not meant to be, it happens. Individuals with a smaller group of friends may be envied by those with a larger group of friends because having a trusted small group of close friends means more then having a large group of friends and acquaintances. Overall friendship is based on what you look for in a person. If you're a more sociable person a large group of friends might be better for you, where as if you are a more private person with large values in life most of the time you would be better off with a few good friends.